Maybe this is obvious. Maybe it’s not.
The spirituality of an experience is subjective (dependent on the observer), not objective (dependent on the experience or object being observed).
This is seen in a number of different places.
Sometimes hear people say “I really felt the spirit” in a meeting / lesson that I have found particularly lackluster. Other times, I’ll have a deep, intense experience in a sacrament meeting and look around to see that everyone else is staring at phones and not really paying attention.
Another example is Mark Twain's reaction to the Book of Mormon. He found it such a “slow... sleepy... mess of inspiration” that he called it “chloroform in print.” (Taken from
Roughing It, Ch. 16). Others find inspiration, joy, and a connection to Jesus Christ that changes their life.
The Day of Pentecost is another illustration. For context, it’s 50 days since Passover (around the time of the crucifixion). Christ has been spending 40 days teaching his disciples. Peter, who seems to have gone from Christ denier to powerful witness in that period of time, stands up in front of a crowd from 13 different regions to preach repentance and baptism. Miraculously, everyone here's him in their own language.
But some mock and say “Dudes, Peter’s just drunk!” (Acts 2:13, Hugh Spackman Translation).
And sometime when others mock, I question my own experiences. Could it really have been that special if someone else didn't experience the same thing? If others read the Book of Mormon and get nothing out of it, can it be what it says it is?
Yes.
Because the spirituality of an experience is subjective. Not objective.